Your Next BIG Speech
Learning to Ride a Bike.
“I can’t do it, Daddy” she wines.
It’s Summer 2013 and we are futzing around the sidewalk in front of the house. My daughter is on her brand new bike, me behind her pushing her as she tries peddling for the first time. The bike was a birthday gift. She has just turned 3. The bicycle has training wheels, of course, and we are still a long way from our final goal of complete independence.
Like anything new, you need to start somewhere. New is scary. And as a parent, watching your child discover something new, something that you’ve long taken for granted is both humbling and sweet.
“I don’t think I can do it, Daddy,” she repeats.
“Of course you can, Hon. You just need to peddle and steer. I have you. You can do it.” is my full-hearted response.
“I’m scared,” she whimpers back.
“You need to know you can do it and then go for it. You CAN do this. I believe in you,” I reassure her. And on it goes, the delicate dance that is learning how to ride a bike. Onward we tread, one session at a time.
Artificial Success is Still Success.
Giving a presentation can feel like hunting in the wilds of Africa. If you let them smell fear, you’ve already lost. Believing in yourself can be difficult, especially when you attempt to do things that are new and challenging. The insecurity is boiled down into one simple idea – there is a potential to fail. Let me reassure you, you’ll be okay. Think of it this way. Even at your worst…your absolute worst…I mean dropping a total stinker up there at the podium, chances are you will not get laughed off the stage. So you have that going for you...
Actually, who am I kidding, audiences almost always start out supportive of a speaker’s performance. They want you to succeed and they naturally experience empathy for your stressful situation.
Believing in yourself while presenting is nothing more than knowing what you have to say, knowing your strengths, and knowing your flaws. Then being smart enough to manage them successfully. And if that doesn’t work. Fake it until you make it. Yes, that is my advice for you when it comes to building up your confidence and belief in yourself. Fake it until you make it. If you are short on experience, knowledge, expertise, or insight, sometimes you just need to rely on straight up old-fashioned mind games to convince yourself of your value. Guess what? Keep convincing yourself of something long enough and it will become true for you…isn’t that right Brian Williams (ouch!)?
Parenting & Public Speaking. Together
The behaviors, experiences, and techniques parents use everyday can improve YOUR NEXT BIG SPEECH. Whether it be using silly voices or just playing with the kids, these actions improve self-confidence, stage presence, and audience engagement. And that’s just the beginning…