Here’s some useful information on overcoming the fear of public speaking in a convenient infographic.
It’s not about you. You are just the vessel that carries the information from point a (source material) to point b (audience). That concept alone will make or break you as a presenter. We all have ego. We all like to feel special, loved, and important. But presentations are not a one-sided relationship. They are a symbiotic relationship between you and your audience. Presentations build and strengthen as your relationship with the audience grows. It is very analogous to dating, from the first impressions, through the flirting, to the wooing, and eventually to nailing that shit. So, how do you get from love at first sight to a lasting relationship that leaves them wanting more? Let’s break it down.
Roses are red, violets are blue…so are your lips!?!
It bothers me when people try to compare the incomparable. It makes everyone look silly. For example, I hate it when someone says owning a dog is like raising a child. It’s not. Please, don’t try to play it up, either. You just look ridiculous. And I’m stuck looking foolish trying to humor you.
Conversely, there are many things that are comparable.Want an example?
More specifically, fear for a child as compared to fear for oneself. We’ve all been afraid of something. Fear of something affecting you makes sense. What’s comparable, but doesn’t directly affect you, is being afraid when something affects someone else…namely, your child.
I’ve experienced my fare share of scary shit with my kids. Whether it is having one of my two daughters get sick with E. coli, or falling and hitting her head on the fireplace, or getting her finger caught in the door, or breaking her arm, or dislocating her elbow…I’ve seen a lot. I think the most frightening experience I have ever had was the one time my oldest daughter had cyanosis (skin started to turn blue) when she was a baby. I was giving her a bath. I turned the water off and was drying her off when within a few seconds she began to change color. Her face went gray and her lips went blue. She became somewhat despondent. I called out to my wife. We wrapped her in blankets and rushed her to the emergency room. By the time we got there her skin returned flush and her lips turned pink. We never really got a good explanation for what happened. But it is a visual I’ll never forget – an 18 month old with grey skin and blue lips.
That is fear!
Compare that fear to the fear of public speaking? Come on, son!
Next time you start thinking you are scared to present, realize that what you feel is nothing compared to some of the other shit you have had to overcome as a parent. Use your experience to your advantage and you will preserve.
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Parenting & Public Speaking. Together
The behaviors, experiences, and techniques parents use everyday can improve YOUR NEXT BIG SPEECH. Whether it be using silly voices or just playing with the kids, these actions improve self-confidence, stage presence, and audience engagement. And that’s just the beginning…